After reading Andrea's post I have a few things to say. First and foremost... I am glad that she posted an update so soon because I was curious about what was going to happen & for some reason her last comment that she "thought that it was the principle of the thing" struck me. Of course it was the principle of the thing, but the world does not revolve around people who are in unique situations. So when do you fight & stand up and yell"
We are unique damn it! And we count!!! And when do you not do that?
And secondmost (ha) I am glad that I don't have to get up early tomorrow because this might take a little while and when I'm done I will likely pig out on something I shouldn't!
This is a less than equal analogy but believe it or not, I can relate.
I grew up with alternate ideas about who I was & what I wanted to do than the messages that the world around me was giving me loud and clear. Sometimes I fought & sometimes I didn't & for a very long time I did not realize that it was the "principle of the thing" that bothered me much more than being unique and not a part of the consumer mainstream. I guess some people are just slower than others.
But as I sit here right now I can tell you that I am looking RIGHT NOW at an example of exactly what I mean!!!!! Can you tell that my heart rate just went up a few beats per minute? Well it did so I'm going to hurry up so I can get to the refrigerator.
Dan bought me a ground blind for Christmas. When I came home today it was set up in the middle of the living room. Before I even got my jacket off, I went into it ... I was pretty excited!!! But as soon as I got in it I was disappointed and thought (FUCK!) to myself!!!! It will not work!!!.... at least not for bow hunting which is what I really wanted one for. Why? Because it is built for a man. Let me 'splain this you: A man, in general, is strong enough to be able to pull a compound bow back from a sitting position. I am not. I have to be standing to be able to pull my bow. Although the ground blind is tall enough for me to stand in, the windows are placed at too low an angle for me to be able to stand & shoot at anything at any distance. It will be fine for me to use when I gun hunt; I can shoot my gun when sitting. It would be fine for a man who bow hunts. He can shoot his bow while sitting. I cannot!!! How much fucking harder would it have been for some idiot to think hmmmmmm. there might be a few short women who happen to like to bow hunt and who may need these windows juuuuuuuuust 10" taller? Since it likely
was a man who designed the thing, it probably never
did cross his mind in the first place ( ok... there goes 10 years of production time wasted) and even if it DID cross his mind he likely at the same time thought; but it might take a little more thought & the blueprints for the thing may have to be gone over a few times , so it might cost a little more for production and the demand wouldn't be very high so it wouldn't be cost effective so let's just forget about those "unique little short women" .
Fuck yeah it's the principle of the thing!!!! We count!!!!!! Adoptive parents and their children count!!!!
I am afraid that my friend Andrea, being wired the way she is, is in for some challenging times. But she is strong & bright and will be a great advocate for her little boy & other families in similar situations.
Final note: Dan-the-man. Gotta love this guy. He has grown accustom to this type of situation & after a little thought told me that it's no problem, he can dig the ground out from below it so I can stand & shoot. But...... it is the principle of the thing.
Now I'm tired , my heart rate has returned to normal & I just want to give Andrea a cyber hug and go to bed.
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